I Wish She Could Tell Me

Happy Friday everyone!

I always say I wish I could know what Chloe is thinking. Monday through Wednesday Chloe worked really hard on her homeschool. Then on Thursday she just looked at me and said “No Thanks” and even teared up. I can’t make her learn, she has to want to.

I took a notebook and wrote out a space for her name, address, phone #, birthday, plus calendar information. She really enjoyed it for 3 days and then was done. She is a tough nut to crack. As I have said I want her to want to learn. It is a constant battle to get Chloe to enjoy learning. So yesterday and today we are doing a bit of unschooling. I will attempt to put a few activities in her way and hopefully she will do them.

I don’t know if she is still struggling with her Dad being home or not. She doesn’t seem upset anymore. She understands Dad is working at home for awhile. I guess I will know if it does once he goes back to work. She has also stopped watching TV. She was watching the same movie every day for months and now she wants zero TV. That’s a good thing. So many changes in this girl lately. 

I hope all of you have a wonderful weekend.

 

Changing Things Up

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Good morning and Happy Halloween to those that are having a party or trick or treating tonight. What are we doing? Nothing this year.

Our community had trick or treating last night, because today we are expecting A LOT of rain. I had decided a week ago to forgo the Halloween traditions this year. I have mentioned Chloe’s obsession with candy. I am trying to keep that under control. We did find sugar free lollipops online and ordered them. Those are her favorite. I did go out today and get her a small bucket and filled it with Goldfish, Welch’s Fruit Snacks and  a few small chocolate treats. She was so excited and didn’t seem to care she wasn’t going out. I have always believed she had a bit of anxiety going door to door and being made to say “Trick or Treat”. Costumes were always tough too. She, being younger in mind than in body, wants costumes that are only made for younger children. It has been a struggle. She is happy and that’s what matters.

I have never been a fan of Halloween. I remember as a kid being so anxious going to a persons door and knocking. I was miserable and the costumes in the 70’s and 80’s UGH!!! My 2 older children loved Halloween, so I went along and acted like I did too. I’m sure they felt my stress. I don’t know why I feel the way I do. I have been asked if its because I’m a Christian. Nope . I just don’t enjoy it. I do love seeing others enjoy it though. I am hoping to start some new October traditions from now on and I’m sure Chloe and my hubby will enjoy them.

Anyway I hope all of you have a fun and safe night.

A Better Week So Far

Good Morning! I hope everyone is having a wonderful week so far.

Chloe is doing very well so far this week. They moved our city’s Trick or Treat day to last night because of heavy rains coming in tonight. As I have mentioned we are not doing trick or treating this year because of Chloe’s current obsession with candy. Every day she asks to go get more candy. This will be the first year in 25 years as a parent I haven’t participated, but I am actually relieved to not have the stress for one year. Hopefully next year she can go.

Chloe is participating in homeschool a lot more this week. She wanted to wear her hat during school time yesterday. She flips her fireman hat around to be a conductor. Super cute!! She still loves her calendar board and I have been changing up her work from hands on to making my own worksheets for her. She is doing very well with it. She stared subtracting in her head yesterday. Dad and I were so proud of her. She can already add in her head. I also have been doing more speech and OT activities with her. I posted a video of her speech therapy today on my YouTube channel. So everything is going smooth so far this week. How is your week going?

Thanks for stopping by. Have a wonderful and blessed day.

 

Meltdowns vs Tantrums

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Meltdowns and Tantrums, is there a difference? Oh yes there is!!

Chloe has both quite often. Saturday started out quite calmly and we had planned to have a relaxing morning and then I was going to declutter the shed in the afternoon. Chloe asked to go outside, which was fine since I could clean out the shed while she played. I decided to film my declutter results video for YouTube during this time as well.

A few minutes into filming Chloe asked to get in the truck. I calmly told her “Not today”. She started repeating and whining “Go to truck” over and over again. I kept filming because this is real life folks. She hadn’t ramped up to badly yet. I finished the video and she went straight into crying “Go to the truck”!!! It was getting louder and screaming began. Still a tantrum at this point. I firmly, but patiently, told her “No truck, staying home”. I also told her that if she couldn’t stop screaming we were going in. She continued so we went in the house.

Ok friends, this is where it shifts. She was sent to her room after being warned in the house to stop screaming. I again said “Staying home today”. Now she was screaming “Go outside”!!! Phew. This shifted into a 3 HOUR MELTDOWN!! I kid you not. Let me explain the differences in a tantrum and a meltdown.

1) A tantrum is goal oriented. If they get what they want or something they will take instead the tantrum calms down.

2) A meltdown is when the child goes into overload and can no longer control themselves. The fit has to run its course.

3) Tantrums need an audience. Outside she stayed in my view crying and followed me around.

4) Once in meltdown mode begins she is all over the place screaming, hitting herself and almost impossible to talk to. There’s no getting through.

** Once the meltdown is over we do not mention the situation that caused it. Why not? Sometimes she has forgotten why she was upset. Also if we mention it the fit can start all over. Chloe will usually start playing and laughing when she is finished.**

Some people might say if we just took her back outside she would have been happy. Maybe or she would have started about the truck again. Also she isn’t learning right from wrong. Kids with autism always want their way, but we have to teach them that can’t always happen. Saturday was the roughest day Brett and I have had with Chloe in a long time. I am not sure what is going on with her, but I am praying it is a phase that ends SOON! Brett had me leave for a bit to decompress, but I walked back in to her still screaming. I love my husband and I appreciate him trying to give me a break.

Does your child have a lot of tantrums or meltdowns? What is your strategy with them?

My Book of the Week

 

I just finished this book and it was great! I am implementing the strategies with Chloe. I love how the authors spoke about families that used these methods to help their children with Autism. I am very excited and am hopeful that these strategies will help Chloe.

The first thing I am doing is giving Chloe an Epsom Salt bath 3 days a week. This will increase the magnesium in her system. In a few weeks I will add a probiotic. Everything is done in steps, not all at once. I will keep a journal about any positive or negative changes during the addition of these steps. I will then wait a few weeks before adding in the next strategy.

I will keep you updated on how each step goes. Keep us in your thoughts.

Have a wonderful and blessed day.

A Special Gift

Happy Thursday!! Yesterday was a beautiful day here. Chloe and I spent most of the day outside. She would be outside sun up to sun down if I let her. We both have allergy issues so she is coughing a bit and my sinuses are stuffy, but I want her to enjoy it while she can.

She has been really exploring the trees at the end of the yard lately. She found a branch that she can shake and make leaves fall off the tree. She sings our Leaves are Falling Down song. Very cute. I asked her if she wanted to make a picture for her Uncle (my baby brother that was in the motorcycle accident) and she said “Yes”! We collected different types of leaves to make leaf prints.

Chloe is not a fan of arts and crafts like she use to be. When she was a toddler to about 5 she loved them, but now she gets upset sometimes if I ask her to make something. Every now and then she will make something for a friend or relative. She started off making cute little leaf prints. I helped her put the paint on the leaves before she pressed them on her paper. After a few minutes she just took the brush and painted the whole paper and that’s ok. She was very proud of her masterpiece. The holidays are approaching fast and hopefully she will get a bit more crafty. I miss doing crafts with her.

Thank you so much for stopping by. Thanks to all of my followers and welcome to my new ones. If you want to get to know us a bit more head over to my YouTube channel also called Autism With Grace. Have a wonderful and blessed day.