Friends are part of life….unless you don’t really have any.
I always had a small group of friends growing up. After high school we lost touch and I occasionally had a friend here and there, but not a super close one. Once I had my first child on the spectrum it seemed people were nice, but leary to hang out. If you don’t know a lot about Autism, you won’t understand my life. So, for many years I had no real friends.
Then I had Miss Chloe. A bunch of us at church we’re pregnant at the same time. I thought “Oh this will be great”! I guess a lot of them were already close friends and I didn’t fit their puzzle. Once Chloe was diagnosed the avoidance was greater and hurtful. So, I eventually left that church. I wanted true friends, not avoidance or pity.
When Chloe turned 3 she started preschool in the local school system. I met some Mom’s there that truly understood my life, because their children had Autism also. These great women are friends, but because of busy lives and now Covid, we don’t hang out. We text occasionally, but it’s not the same.
It can be very lonely in this Autism world. I would rather someone ask me a million questions, than avoid me. I know there are many mom’s like me out there who feel what I do. I’m not an extrovert, but would at times love to blow off steam with the girls. Before Covid I was connecting with a few high school friends. We even hung out once or twice, but there is still that divide. They don’t understand what I go through. I just have to learn to accept that.
Hopefully after Covid settles down, if it ever does, I can get together with my Autism Mom friends. We get each other. Sleepless nights, picky eaters, fussy kids and many more topics. Covid has definitely caused even more isolation, but eventually it will end.
All I ask is if you see a mom or even a Dad struggling with a child, don’t judge or run away. Asking “Do you need help”?, means so much. Ask questions respectfully. Teach your children to treat children with disabilities with care and respect. Our children didn’t ask to be Autistic. They struggle every day to understand the simplest things and we are their tour guide, advocate and voice. We need respect too.
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